What’s the book? American Afterlives by Shannon Lee Dawdy
How dark is it? very light for a book about funerals
How good is it? 3/10 tasteful urns

This is the latest Morbidly Curious selection and I was relieved to find that it isn’t deeply depressing and Very Very Important. I’ve got a lot going on and I’m depressed enough without another socially important but tragic selection on my list. I didn’t enjoy this book as much as I’d hoped but at least it wasn’t depressing. Not for me, anyway.
This author writes the way I talk when I’m drunk, wandering between subjects and time periods according to her own obscure internal logic. Dawdy tries to show us a little bit of everything–traditional funerals, modern alternatives, the history of practices like embalming and headstone decor–but in trying to show us everything she doesn’t explore anything very deeply. I was excited for this book and the superficial treatment left me disappointed.
The introduction, which took nearly a quarter of the book’s length, promised a lot. Way too much for the rest of this short book to deliver. Apparently this book is largely based on material originally destined for a documentary and at times this shows. Dawdy will spend several paragraphs talking about being wrapped in a shroud or describing an interview subject’s home and then skimp on the details of actual funeral preparations or the mechanics of embalming. At times it was charming and many of her subjects probably would be interesting on camera but I don’t want to read a book describing what the documentary would have been like. I want to read about my new and exciting death care options, preferably in detail, and instead I got a lot of breezy anecdotes about the colorful characters the industry attracts. The photographs included in the book had this odd feel, too, being mostly emotive stills from the film footage that were only sometimes interesting and informative.
If you’ve avoided thinking about your own funeral and want to be more comfortable with death and its trappings, this might be a nice introduction. You’ll find out a little about everything from green burial to composting to having your ashes turned into a brilliant fireworks display, with a little discussion about changing attitudes toward death. If you’ve ever followed ‘death positive’ content or you like the darker side of history, you might not find much new here. It didn’t occur to me that I’d gone past ‘Death 101’ but apparently I have. I wouldn’t consider myself extremely interested in funeral practices but I was familiar with most of the topics covered. I picked up a few nuggets here and there but the book was largely a retread for me.
Still, I’ve read worse books. This was a quick and easy read even if it did wander off on way too many tangents. The author’s philosophical ramblings about the American approach to death left me cold but again, if you’ve never thought about the subject it might be a soft introduction for you.





